Coming to closure

The phrase "coming to closure" suggests a process. In the mentoring relationship, good closure is synonymous with learning and development. Good closure should catapult you forward into a new stage. Lack of closure or poor closure can impede growth.

Although individual, a need for closure varies, closure is essential for growth. Whether closure is unanticipated or planned, dealing with it together and directly is critical for a successful mentoring relationship. The importance of the "closure conversation" cannot be over emphasized. It is during this conversation that learning takes place, that appreciation gets articulated, and the celebration occurs. It is also the occasion for renegotiation: to determine if this relationship might continue, and if so, on what basis.(Friends :) Mentoring and Protege Vol. 9 No. 4 Fall 1999

Why look back?Chapman: If you move out of a relationship without resolving past relationship hurts, disappointments and failures, you may hamper your ability to be open, to trust, to engage or to be close and honest. The moment you get into another relationship, these issues tend to arise. In fact, most of the problems that people have in relationships come from "unfinished business" from prior relationships.

I finally realized I am coming to closure myself. I was catapulted forward this last week with the
help of my last relationship. I think closure is a good thing. If you cannot forget the last relationship but celebrate it for what it is, then you will never grow. I am looking for a wonderful and new relationship that will bring great happiness for my future. There will be no unfinished business.

I am looking for someone who comes internally happy and it will not be my job to make that person happy with material or emotional products. I found out myself, to have a good relationship, each one of us has to create our own happiness first. I have found what makes me happy is working out a couple of times a week, seeing my children as much as possible, going to the temple, and of course, good food and fun with friends. I am working on myself to make the best possible me. I am internally happy right now and will stay that way if I do not forget myself.